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Sexuality Sexuality Sex Tips Talking About Sex Sexual Health From Cory Silverberg, your Guide to Sexuality The details and specifics of how we explore (a thing, a place, a person, a body) matter. You can touch too much, too soon, too hard. You can barge into a conversation without sitting back and getting a feel for what's going on. You can leave marks where no marks were, and no marks were desired. But just as important as what we do in the course of exploration, is our intent. If you want to find out something new, whether it's about yourself, someone else, or a whole group of people; ask yourself, are you going in as an explorer, for the sake of learning and growing, or are you going in as a colonizer, expecting to plant a flag, discover beauty and then take it all for yourself? The legacy of colonialism, which is all around us and within us, matters to our sex lives. Politically there's always so much to say about this. But personally, when I'm trying to offe r help or support to an individual, I just want to say, take it easy. You don't need to own something to love it and learn from it, and everything about sex is bigger than you are, so conquering is the absolutely wrong metaphor. ~ Cory How Not to Study Muslim Adolescents' Views on Sexuality Despite the depth of thought in Islam around sexuality, and the diversity of opinions and understanding of sexuality and Islam among Muslims of various practices and beliefs around the world, non-Muslims don't get to hear much public discussion about sexuality and Islam. Which is why I was eager to read this research study out of the Netherlands. Before You Explore A few things to consider before embarking on any new sexual exploration. Confused About Orientation In public, most people present themselves as having one single sexual orientation. Society, families, and even our closest friends put a lot of pressure on us to choose one sexual orientation and stick with it. But privately, many of us have questions and some confusion about our own sexual orientation -- and not just when we're younger. I Can't Orgasm with My Partner The good news is that if you can orgasm just fine on your own, but aren't having orgasms with a partner, you can rule out physical problems or medication you're taking as the cause of the non-orgasms. The bad news is, of course, that you aren't orgasming with your partner. And presumably you want to be. That's a presumption on my part, but if you do in fact have a partner that you'd like to have an orgasm with, or in front of, there's hope. Sexuality Ads Dessert Recipes Sweepstakes Entries Enter Sweepstakes Sweepstakes Prizes Unsubscribe Script Featured Articles How to Light a Room for Sex Follow About Sexuality on Twitter! Sexuality E-Course: Weekly Sex Position Las Vegas Conference Tells a Different Kind of Vulva Story Shopping Around for Sex Shops 9 Weeks to Better Sex   More from About.com Is it a Cold or the Flu? Knowing whether you have a cold or the flu can help you treat your symptoms more effectively. More> Concerned About Your Drinking? This short quiz can help you identify whether or not you have a drinking problem. More> This newsletter is written by: Cory Silverberg Sexuality Guide Email Me | My Blog | My Forum   Sign up for more free newsletters on your favorite topics You are receiving this newsletter because you subscribed to the About Sexuality newsletter. If you wish to change your email address or unsubscribe, please click here. About respects your privacy: Our Privacy Policy Contact Information: 249 West 17th Street New York, NY, 10011 © 2010 About.com   Must Reads What Is Sex? Sex How Tos All About Orgasms Sex Toys 101 Sex Positions Pictures Advertisement