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 | I've often mentioned here how skewed one's perspective becomes when sex is part of one's work life. This week I was reminded of this because as I sat down to put this newsletter together I wrote "Anal Sexual Pleasure" on the top of the page. I almost immediately thought to myself that I couldn't make that the headline of the newsletter as it is what would appear in the subject line of the email you receive from me every week. And knowing that many of us would prefer not to have our sexual interests broadcast to the world I got worried about the kind of embarrassment that could result from you opening your inbox and someone noticing that you have something about anal pleasure waiting for you. But this was, honestly, the first time in months that I had worried about the appropriateness of a title of a newsletter. And so I had to stop and question myself about this. Why do I think the word anal is so much more potentially embarrassing than other words I've put in headlines recently ("shame" "STD" "masturbation" "fetish" "boyfriend"). It might be for some of you, but what am I assuming when I hesitate to put that word in the subject line of an email? In the end I decided to stick with anal (so to speak) but use a phrase which could be equally at home in Psychology Today as it is on About Sexuality. I didn't want to impose my own values on all my readers, at least no more than necessary. But I want to stay mindful and respectful of the difficulties of having a mass public conversation about sexuality. Hopefully the headline struck a balance, and hopefully you'll find at least one or two things of interest in this week's theme. ~ Cory | |
Your First Time
If you are interested in exploring anal pleasure, but you haven't tried it before, you should know that the biggest obstacle is misinformation. There is so much of it out there (online, in psuedo-medical texts, and in self-help content across all platforms). It's hard to enjoy yourself if you're worried about searing pain, mountains of fecal matter, a lifetime of incontinence, or what your sexual activities may or may not mean about the rest of your sex life. Here then are some of the basics you need to know, minus the hysteria.
| Analyze Yourself
Perhaps more than other sexual activities, we often think of anal sex as something to do with someone else. It may take two to tango, but not so for exploring anal pleasure.
| How Long Can You Wear a Butt Plug For?
This question appeared on the About Sexuality Forums, and while it might be niche, it seemed only fair to share it with the class.
| Are Lubes Safe for Rectal Use?
For sex ed, anal sex, or lube nerds only, this fantastic hour long presentation by IRMA offers an update on what research tells us about the safety of using lubricant during anal intercourse.
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